I look forward to the little pocket of me-time I have weekly while waiting for the kids to be done with the only enrichment class I don’t have to join in. Usually, this is when I get to catch up on my blog posts or check out my shopping carts.
Two weeks ago while the kids were at class, I was overwhelmed by exhaustion and nearly dozed off at my seat outside the centre. I stood up to work on my laptop instead but it didn’t help. It was such a struggle trying to keep my eyes opened!
I closed my laptop and packed my stuff. Turned to the mum sitting next to me and told her I needed to get a drink or else I’m going to fall asleep any moment. (We kinda knew each other as our daughters are in the same class.) I asked her if she wanted any drinks and was pleasantly surprised that she decided to come along with me to grab a drink together!
This turned out to be my highlight for the day. We had such a good time chatting we were late in picking up our girls! During our get-to-know-each-other session over her ice-cream and my Himalayan tea latte, I discovered some similarities we both share in our roles as mothers.
Multi-task until blur
I was pretty proud of my multi-tasking skills before, and never liked just doing one thing at one time cos I felt it was such a waste of time. Now, I cannot remember how it is like doing and focusing on just one thing at a time. My mind feels so cluttered with thoughts on how to plan the weekend schedule, how to plan the kids’ enrichment classes so that it works for all of us, how to work more efficiently at work, how to have more quality time with the husb, how to squeeze some time out for me to learn something new, how to increase our income with more expenses, etc.
Sometimes an idea to fix one of the how-tos would hit me while I’m working on something and when I want to grab something to jot it down, I would walk out of my room and forget what I was supposed to get or what idea I had in mind. God knows how many times I had to retrace my steps to help myself to recall. It’s pretty scary and I was glad to know I’m not alone – this new mummy friend I made was the same!
The lost Scheduler
I’m a huge fan of Google Calendar. I derive pleasure in planning my schedule, my kids’ schedules and knowing my husband’s schedule. We share calendars so that I can better plan our week nights and our weekends. I share calendars with my folks so that I know when I need to look for back-up babysitters. I feel pretty accomplished when my plans go ahead as well, planned.
It can be a small matter to others to forget something while running errands at different locations. But if I leave out something I am supposed to do at one of the locations, I would get extremely peeved at myself. I hate putting myself in a dilemma if I should go back and get that to-do checked off my list, or move onto my next to-do. It’s exasperating because I made much effort to plan my schedules nicely in order to get the to-dos done, and such situations still happen. I was glad to learn I’m not alone – his new mummy friend gets just as peeved with herself in such situations too!
I left the café feeling happier after what feels like a good therapy session. As it turned out, all I needed was a listening ear and more affirmation that moms are never alone in their (maybe strange) struggles to perk me up.