The first whole week of January came and went by. We have more or less accepted the harsh reality that it’s back to full steam at work and school with the Christmas and New Year holidays truly over!
I’ve skipped setting new year resolutions but this year, I decided I need to set a goal for myself. I need to focus on myself. I need to be in a good place myself before I can look after people around me. I came across an article some time last year about mindful parenting. Here’s an excerpt:
“Like everybody else, parents have their own needs and desires and lives, just as children do. Our needs as parents in any given moment may be very different from those of our child.
Rather than pitting our needs against our children’s, parenting mindfully involves cultivating an awareness, right in such moments, of how our needs are interdependent. Our lives are undeniably deeply connected. Our children’s well-being affects ours, and ours affects theirs. If they are not doing well, we suffer, and if we are not doing well, they suffer.”
I thought this is so true. In my attempts to juggle my roles, I’ve lost myself to the busyness of life. Many a times, I lose my temper with the kids or get impatient with my husband/folks for the littlest things and go to bed feeling like the worst mother, wife or daughter ever.
When I saw this journal at my favourite stationery store, kikki.K., I knew I had to get this to help myself.
Especially when I got to the part:
“Often we cruise through life on autopilot. We eat, work, sleep and perform everyday routines without really thinking about them. We can find ourselves on autopilot even interacting with loved ones.
When we live our lives on autopilot, it’s much easier to lose control; control over how we respond to situations. For example, rather recognising that a certain situation is making you feel stressed or anxious and acknowledging those feelings so that you can move forward, it’s easy to get lost in the stress or anxiety, stopping you from resolving the issue and keeping you from living in the moment.“
Yep, that’s definitely me they are talking about. Going to read through and work on the techniques shared in this journal to see how it can help me become more mindful and hopefully, become better in all the roles I have to play.