2013 was gone in a flash! I had no time to do any reflective posts because in the last 6 weeks of 2013, the husb spent 2 weeks in Denmark, 2 weeks in reservist and 2 weeks in Norway and Ivory Coast. He made it back just in time to count down to 2014 with us.
It was a busy year. With the husb having to travel a whole lot more, I’ve been upping my parenting skills with all the solo parenting stints throughout the year. I’m going to say it like it is. I absolutely hate how disruptive his work trips are to our lives. It was a strain on our relationship at some points and both of us were upset. We were not communicating as much as we should because we were occupied with the gazillion errands and kids stuff to attend to with our limited time together. It’s frustrating.
But all that changed when I suddenly looked at the situation with a different perspective. I was watching the kids sleep on one of my solo parenting nights and felt so blessed that at least I’ve the kids to accompany me while the husb has to work and be away from his loved ones. Instantly I felt guilty for my past attempts to make him feel worse about his work trips. It’s not his choice, it’s tiring and he misses us a great deal. I on the other hand, have good support from my family when I’m solo parenting and my colleagues have been understanding about my needs to take more time off from work. And the husb always tries to get a little gift for me when he returns. Gotta give points for effort!
In the new year, I resolve to put more attention on us.
Still find it hard to believe I’ve two toddlers to call my own now. I’m very thankful for the opportunity to become a mother. It’s a privilege that I will NEVER take for granted and I’m so glad that we took the plunge to have them. Seriously, marriage is not the plunge. Having kids is. It’s a whole new world.
My kids never fail to amaze me every single day and annoy me every other day. I marvel at how much they have learned and grown in the past year. Sometimes I feel bad for not documenting their milestones and the anecdotes. But I was experiencing the moments with them! Let’s just hope they can remember mommy being there for them whenever she can.
In the new year, I resolve to be an orange rhino and a more loving mom. Knowing my short temper, this is going to be the biggest challenge!
I’ve said this many times. I am SO GLAD for the strong support my family gives me when it comes to looking after my kids. Being a FTWM with a husband who has to travel for work very often means I get drained out pretty quickly with my two rascals. I’m very thankful I still do get little time-outs cos my parents love the kids loads and don’t mind taking over them when I really cannot cope or am unwell. And my brothers help to chauffeur them around at times!
We finally got the keys to our place in 2013. After much procrastination and also due to our crazy schedules, we finally got things going in December and hoping with all our might we can have the house ready by CNY 2014!
And we hope to host more gatherings with friends now that we have a place of our own!
While drafting this post, which took a good number of days, we were informed of more upcoming work trips. Zzz! I shall not resolve to blog more this year cos it ain’t looks like it’s going to happen.
Have a good 2014, everyone! See ya on Instagram!