I had started off this post about how I had always wanted to be a lady of leisure and then a SAHM (stay-at-home-mother) when I became a mom. Besides wanting to spend time with my kids, it was also because I never had much luck with nice bosses and good working environments. But a weekend of solo parenting with the husb away and busy grandparents have me raising a white flag and deleting all that I had wanted to write about wanting to be a SAHM again. Yes, my friends..you have heard me right – I am no longer keen to be a SAHM! Part-time, probably. Full-time, no thank you.
To be eligible for the label of FTWM, obviously I have to be working full-time. I’m really thankful that I finally found a nice boss and a work environment that is family-friendly. I get to go home on time and don’t have to worry about work once I leave the office. (Hope I don’t jinx anything by writing it out here in public!) It is important for us because the husb has to travel quite often, so one of us has to be always around. The biggest plus of a job is that it helps pay my bills and makes me more appreciative of the time I have with my kids and family. I remember missing proper adult conversations as well during the time I was a SAHM, so having colleagues give me a good dose of adult conversations every day at least!
But to be able to go to work with a peace of mind is possible only with good caregivers. Hence, I’m extremely grateful that we are staying together with my family and my parents can help us with the kids. Even my brothers, sis-in-law and grandma chip in to help at times! How very lucky we are.
kids with lousy bed-tiquette
Both Thaddeus and Teanne are lousy with sleep. Thaddeus tends to make noise during his sleep with his cries to come over to sleep in our bed or asks for milk (which we try to avoid giving until it’s around time to wake up), while Teanne still wakes up for her 3-hourly feeds (zZzzZ!). Thus, Teanne has to sleep with my parents on Sunday-Thursday nights so that the husb and I won’t look too horrid for work. I’m thankful they help me out by taking Teanne whenever the husb travels too.
So my typical FTWM weekday schedule goes something like this:
- 0530-0630: Husb wakes to settle his son’s feed (I do this when he’s away on work trips)
- 0700: I wake to start preparing for work
- 0730: We bring the son down to my parents’ room after his wash up and change into school uniform.
It usually takes some tears and tugging from the son and some crazy goodbye waves from the daughter before we can leave.
- 0745: Husb and I do breakfast before he drops me off at the office – our ONLY proper us-time!
- 0830-1200: I get some updates on how Thaddeus did at drop-off and/or how Teanne is doing.
- 1200-1300: Lunch time = running of errands, getting kids’ stuff, replying personal emails and messages, etc
- 1630: My parents or brother will send some updates on what Thaddeus is doing after they fetched him and my nephew from school.
- 1800: The husb comes by to fetch me from work and we rush home to see our babies.
- 1830: My parents give a quick summary on how the kids were for the day. We bring Thaddeus back to our room and take turns to bathe while the other plays with him.
- 1900: Dinner time! My mum helps to feed Teanne solids while we make sure Thaddeus eats his dinner and have ours quickly too.
- 1930: I take over Teanne while the husb keeps a watchful eye over his naughty cub playing with his cousins.
Thaddeus bids everyone goodnight with a hug and we start our bedtime routine. I will help him brush teeth, clean up, change into PJs and read him a book if he’s good. The husb will get to spend some time with Teanne after cleaning her up and changing her as well. We are trying this arrangement because Thaddeus is very sticky to his Daddy and Teanne is sticky to me and each will give nonsense to the sticky parent.
- 2100: By right, both kids should be asleep by this time. But well..we have our days. Either the husb or myself will then wash and sterilize the bottles. I will pack Thaddeus’ school bag and reply to the teachers through communication book, if required.
- 2130: Prepare Teanne’s stuff for my mum – filling the bottles with cool water, replenishing more clothes, PJs, face towels and bibs, etc.
- 2200: I will bring Teanne down to my parents’ room along with her stuff and get more updates on how the kids are doing, my parents’ upcoming schedules, etc.
- 2230: On good nights, I will still have some energy left to actually do some stuff on the computer.
- 2330: BEDTIME!
Repeat process every day of the work week. Sounds tiring but the husb and I always look forward to the even-more-tiring weekend when both kids sleep with us and we get to bring them out ‘cos these are the precious moments we never want to miss out on!
Life’s been kind and I’m grateful for these blessings.